The push top, wait five seconds, push bottom is the method to factory reset the device.
Put the Vera 3 into inclusion mode first (press and let go of the z-wave button, it will blink). Then I believe you simply have to turn it on by pressing the bottom of the pad. Exit the inclusion mode by pressing and letting go of the z-wave button again).
I think when I did mine it actually helped to exclude the device first, and then run the inclusion. To exclude, press and let go of the z-wave button (to put into include mode). HOLD the z-wave button for about 3 seconds and let go. The light will blink rapidly, this is the exclude mode. Press the bottom of the light switch (like you’re turning it on). This will exclude the light. Return to inclusion mode by holding the z-wave button for about 3 seconds and letting go. You will see the light blink slower and you will be in inclusion mode.
You don’t need the remote control device.
It’s been a couple of years since I’ve installed mine… hope this helps.